When my husband and I got married, one of the precepts that we chose to build our life upon is that we would seek to be in agreement before we would pursue any given course. This has served us well. At times, we have said "no" to certain things or "yes" to certain things, and sometimes we have even chosen to simply wait and pray. However, no matter what, if we are not in agreement about what to do in a particular situation, or at least in agreement as to what road we will pursue when we have differences, we will choose not to go forward. Yet, one of my favorite scenarios is when we individually hear from God and come to agreement without having discussed it first.
For instance, this happened when a young woman at our church was speaking with me about her upcoming missions trip. She was overflowing with the beauty of Christ, and I really wanted to commit to pray for her and perhaps commit to a financial gift for the ministry God is calling her to do. I hadn't realized it directly, but I basically had a peaceful thought that just seemed right about what I would like that gift to be, and I now realize that that was God speaking to me. I know this because about ten minutes after I shared her mission information with my husband and said that I would like to see if we could give something toward her endeavor, he said that we should see if we could give x amount.
I told him that that was exactly what I was thinking, but hadn't thought to share that with him yet. He told me that he thought I was thinking of that number and that we would be in agreement. This is so God!
We cannot figure out God's ways. His ways are higher than ours, and He knows what He is doing! If you are married and don't know what course of action to take, we recommend taking the situation to the Lord in prayer and waiting on Him for the answer. Agreement and peace between you and your spouse may just be the way to know that still small voice of your Heavenly Father directing you in the way you should go.
Serving Him with you,
Michelle and Tim